I love you

[ghoti_mhic_uait]

So, sometimes on TV someone says I love you, and the other person says "thankyou" or kisses them or just doesn't say anything. Then there's a whole big thing about it: I can think of two breakups over this very issue (one of which I just went to look up what happened because I thought I missed the split, turns out I was wrong.

Now, is it just me or is there something odd here? "I love you" isn't a question, it isn't a leading statement, it's merely a fact. If the other person doesn't feel that way, then they might later, that's OK, but to say something they don't feel seems unnecessary dishonesty. To break up because you love someone, well, I don't get that. And thankyou is just polite, it means 'I hear what you're saying and I'm glad of it'.

Now, I say I love you a lot. I say it when I mean it, and I don't expect anything in return, because it's not a requirement, it's just a statement of fact. What about you?

Comments

[alison-lees.livejournal.com]

me too. except I'm more inconsistent and confusing. But it's not really been an issue. I think there are times when it has to be replied too (usually more romantic times) and others when it doesn't (I told my children this morning before school that I loved them, as a 'parting shot').